Date A Man And Not A Boy!

Here's the Question: Are you dating a man or a boy?
In this article, we are going to unveil some qualities and actions that makes him a boy, small boy at that and not a man, when it comes to being in a relationship.

You’re a woman and I'm sure you don’t want to end-up with some guy that is emotionally immature, passive, non-communicative, and doesn’t treat place value on you right?

Bit you should know that love and relationships are more complicated than that. And let's say you really love him, or you just don’t want to hurt him, or you’re attached to the relationship and just don’t know how to end it, or you simply just have been putting up with his actions  that is far below what you deserve without you even noticing it.


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Oh well, good news, this article is for the ladies and the dudes should pay rapt attention to this, while they wait for their article. Below is a list of behaviors that easily explains if the person you are with, isn't ready for the great relationship course, which isn't  meant to be carried over. Hold on, it doesn’t mean he’s not capable of growing up. It just means he’s not there yet. Try giving him a kick in the ass before you kick him to the curb.

1.

He’s not eager to give in for self-development

Self-improvement  entails personal growth and development, which is very important in all spheres of life. It also add-ups to the growth of any long-term relationship.  So, is your guy seemingly stagnant, just wading around and not looking to improve his life, his career, or trying to eradicate and improve negative habits?
Oh Well, you can’t change people, only they can change themselves, so you definitely want to be with a man who is able to take criticism, objectively look at himself, and is constantly trying to find breakthroughs and ways he can become a better man, not just for you, but primarily for himself because he wants to be the best version of him, for him.

 2.

He doesn’t communicate 

 Does he communicate with you in a regular basis? Men are much more self-aware of their emotions. They’re emotionally mature, whereas boys don’t like communicating their emotions, they don’t even know how to read or understand their own emotions, let alone communicate them. Men places value and understands the benefits of communication. 

So, if your relationship feels refreshing because the guy you’re with is surprisingly honest and a solid communicator, versus a guy who never knows how to articulate what he’s feeling, then you’re dating a man

3.

He can't take ownership over his mistakes

A man can take ownership over his mistakes. Yeah, and it requires a lot of character, and lack of pride, to admit to your partner that you’re wrong, and that you’re sorry. A boy will struggle to take his down his pride to admit his mistakes and failures.
He will definitely argue and stand his ground, even when he knows he’s wrong, but scared to  the defeat of being wrong.

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Nobody can begin to grow or improve themselves if they aren’t able to admit and come to terms with what they need to improve on in the first place. It's best to be with a mature man who is able to admit when he’s wrong. Admitting mistakes gives birth to growth and of-course you will see results in all areas of  his life.

4.

He only cares about Pleasures

A man works towards long-term vision, a boy only cares and works towards having pleasures always. Boys are going out to the bar and getting turned up every weekend, and wasting time, and While a man enjoys having a good time, he has a long-term vision for his life that he’s diligently working towards with speed.
He doesn’t want to squander his time, but rather work his time off to create a comfortable life that will allow him to support a family one day and give his woman the type of life she’s always dreamed of.
If your partner is never concerned that he doesn’t have real tangible goals that he’s working towards, then it’s very likely that you’re dating a boy. If you’re with a man, you will be inspired by his work, and goals and excited at the direction he’s going and life he’s beginning to create for himself.

5.

He's in for games

Boys play games, while men are sharp shooters. A man doesn't have time for games, but boys do, and all the do is shady. If he continuously confuses you, contradicts his behavior, seems flaky, and it’s hard to tell where you stand half the time, he’s hot one minute and cold the next, then it’s very likely that this guy is a boy and not worth your time. 

A boy will play games to maintain the power in a relationship, while a man is confident and comfortable putting himself out there and letting go of power. A boy thinks that the person who cares the least in a relationship holds onto the most amount of power, but a man doesn’t care about power because he’d rather just be happy and enjoy peace of mind.